I would love to be a mom but after committing my life to Christ, doing that out of wedlock is no longer something I’m comfortable with.
Society puts so much pressure on women when it comes to starting a family. Once you hit your 30’s it’s all, “your clocks running out” or “waiting too long could lead to complications”.
I get it – by this age, my parents were married with kids. But times have changed.
I want to have kids one day when the time is right. I don’t believe in having children out of wedlock anymore so I have no choice but to wait until I get married. I don’t know when that’ll be but honestly, it’s okay.
The truth is when it comes to this topic, you don’t owe anyone an explanation. Yes, sometimes the people asking mean well but it’s still invasive and personal.
I find that becoming a parent is a huge decision that shouldn’t be taken lightly. I worry about what kind of mother I’d be and what kind of life I’d be able to give my child. And I don’t even have a child yet.
I would love for my kids to grow up in a stable home, just like I did, and hopefully provide them with a good life. I’m in no position to do that right now (and I’m not married yet).
In any case, more and more women are opting to have children later in life, and there’s nothing wrong with that. I may be one of them.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s path to fulfilment is different. For some, it doesn’t include children and that’s completely valid.
