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I’m going to share what, in my experience, the cons are of living at home as an adult.
Previously, I spoke about my struggles with unemployment and moving to Cape Town to try my luck there. If you haven’t read those posts then please go and check them out by clicking on the link texts.
The Cons of Living at Home
So, one of the major cons of living at home is that sometimes I get exposed to negative things (I won’t specify). Being the person that I am, they end up affecting me (not so much anymore though).
I am tired of being constantly reminded about how I don’t have a degree! I know, it’s my life, I live it every day…
It’s not like I want to be here either. I just don’t have much of a choice right now being unemployed and all. I wasn’t planning on coming back when I left for Cape Town 3 months ago but things didn’t work out.
Anyway, that’s not what this post is about.
Differing Opinions Causing Conflict
When you’re not a kid anymore, you can think for yourself and have your own opinions about things. Sometimes, this causes conflict.
It can be about the smallest of things, like how to do something. Those little spats can be quite annoying; especially when you’ve experienced living alone.
For example, when it comes to washing dishes my mom flips if there are dirty plates in the sink. I think it’s a waste of water to wash plates EVERY time someone eats and we don’t have a dishwasher.
It’s actually interesting to see how this very thing in another household, is a non-issue…
Lack of Privacy
When you’re under your parents’ roof, you don’t really have your own space. Yeah sure, you have your room but even then…
I am lucky enough to be allowed to have friends over for movies, drinks or whatever. But it’s not really my space so freedom is limited (if you know what I mean).
You can’t bring your partner (or hook-ups) over and expect privacy… That’s not gonna happen.
I’m too paranoid to masturbate. I feel like someone’s going to walk in on me or hear my vibrator (gotdamn that thing is loud) lol. So, I just don’t do it unless I’m a hundred per cent certain no one is coming home within the hour.
Affects Your Love Life (not that I have one lol)
This one also ties into the point above because obviously having a lack of privacy will resultantly affect your love life.
I mean, you can’t exactly have sex in your mama’s house hahaha, that’s even if you’re ever actually alone. In the past, I resorted to getting laid in the car which as you can imagine, is not ideal considering it’s a Kia Picanto.
This is even worse if your partner is in the same boat as you and also lives at home – good luck!
Being Treated Like a Child
This is one of the worst!
I’ve always felt behind either people my age because my mother would always do things for me without me asking but I get it, that’s what mothers do.
To me, living at home makes me mature slower because there’s always someone else there to pick up the slack and you get away with it.
No doubt, if I’d left home and life had worked out and I managed to go off and live on my own at a younger age – I’d probably be way more ahead in life. But hey, this is the path I took so here we are.
I remember at some stage I was going out and my mother said no and I thought to myself, ” I’m a grown-ass woman and you’re telling me I can’t go out, why?”
Being an adult you want to be able to go out when you like but that’s not the case when you still live at home. When you’re out every weekend, you go out “too much” then when you come home at ungodly hours it’s also a no-no.
I get it though, when you’re under someone else’s roof, you gotta follow their rules. Still kind of annoying though, just saying…
No adult wants to be told how to live.
It’s even worse when your whole life, you were practically doing as you please. Now you’re 30 and your parent wants to start enforcing rules, um…
I honestly thought I’d be living my best life by now yet here I am. A grown-ass woman still living at home struggling to find a job.
Don’t get me wrong, I am super grateful…
I suppose these points aren’t a big deal. But I’m looking forward to the day I can finally afford to go off and live on my own.
My 24-year-old sister is already doing so and here I am, the delinquent. Still struggling to get her shit together hahaha… I laugh but it’s freaken sad.
I’ve been told that even when I can afford to move out, I shouldn’t. I can’t leave my mom alone… Um, hello… she’s a grown-ass woman though who can take perfectly good care of herself so why shouldn’t I leave? I have to start my own life sometime and I’d prefer it to be sooner rather than later.
I’m an adult. I may not be able to afford it right now but I do need a place to call my own.
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